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Casual Sex Dating: Hookups Today
For UK adults who want sex without the relationship, and aren't shy about saying so.
Casual sex, no strings, no pretending
Casual sex dating is two adults who fancy each other, want sex and don't want a relationship tagging along. Nobody is auditioning for a partner, nobody is pretending a drink is a date, and nobody owes anybody a second night. It might be a one-off, a few times over a summer, or something regular that stays casual because you both like it that way.
That's what sex dating should be: honest about the sex and relaxed about everything else. What it isn't is a promise that anyone will say yes, a licence to be pushy or a reason to drop your manners. HookUps.co.uk has been about hookups since 2015, so a lot of the guesswork about what the other person is after is gone before you say hello. You still ask, you still listen, and no still means no.
Set up, swipe, meet up
- Build your profile. Choose a username, upload a couple of photos and write a few lines on what you're after. Nobody sees your real name or email, only that username.
- Set your nearest town. That's all your profile gives away about where you live: the town, never your address. Your daily matches are worked out from distance, age range, how recently people were last active and what they want: casual, long-term or friendship.
- Swipe and flirt. Right for yes, left for no. Browse members, post a status update, comment on other people's posts and see who bites.
- Message, then meet. Classic members get a set number of messages each day and can open and answer anything a VIP member sends them; VIP members message without a limit. When you both want to, meet somewhere public.
Chat rooms, private group chats and the rest are on the features page.
Say what you want, up front
The quickest way to a good hookup is being clear about what you want. Choose casual as what you're looking for, then say it on your profile in plain words: a one-off or something regular, weeknights or weekends, what you're into and where your limits are. Matches take what people are looking for into account, so being honest here does some of the sorting for you.
Carry the same honesty into your messages. If you want sex and nothing more, say so kindly and early; it saves you both an evening of mixed signals. Expect it back, too. Someone who wants more than you do, or less, isn't rejecting you; they're telling you something useful. And anyone can change their mind right up to the last minute, you included.
Stand out before you say a word
- One clear, recent photo
- Your face, in good light, taken this year. A confident smile does more work than you'd think; keep anything racier for later, and only when you're both up for it.
- A profile that sounds like you
- Three or four lines on what you're after and what you're like. Skip the long list of everything you don't want.
- A first message worth answering
- Pick up on something in their profile, ask one question and keep it short. A cut-and-paste opener sent to fifty people reads exactly like one.
Our hookup profile tips take the profile and the first message further.
Keep the first meet public and easy
Casual doesn't mean careless. Chat on the site until you're comfortable, then meet somewhere public the first time, a busy pub or a coffee shop rather than someone's flat. Tell a friend where you'll be, keep your phone charged and sort your own way home. If anyone pushes for your address, for money or for photos you'd rather not send, that's your cue to block them and report the profile from inside the site; once blocked, they can't reach you again. Our safety page and the hookup safety tips go into more detail.
Find casual sex near you
Start with where you live. The locations page lists every town, county and nation we cover, each with the ages of the members around it, and our hookups near me page shows how distance shapes who you're matched with. Weighing us up against the big names? Our comparisons put HookUps.co.uk side by side with Tinder, AdultFriendFinder and Feeld.
Casual sex dating, answered
What is casual sex dating?
Meeting other adults for sex, with no relationship attached. On HookUps.co.uk you build a profile, set your nearest town, say what you're after and message the members you like. What happens next is up to the two of you.
Can I really find a hookup today?
It can happen. Finish your profile with a clear photo, set your nearest town and message people whose profiles say they want something casual. Say when you're around, too: someone who knows you're up for a drink tonight can say yes to it.
How do I make it clear I only want something casual?
Set casual as what you're looking for, put it in a line on your profile and mention it early in your messages, kindly and without fuss. People who want the same will be glad you said so, and anyone who doesn't can move on without wasting an evening.
Who will I meet on HookUps.co.uk?
Adults in England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. About three in ten of our UK members are women, three quarters of them aged 25 to 44, while the men's biggest age group is 18 to 24.
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