How to ask someone to hook up
Welcome hook-ups, the website where we help you find someone for adult dating and no-nonsense fun. The site is a great place to filter profiles and meeting people for a friends with benefits relationship, a one night stand or just an open ended hook-up with no pressure as to where that goes. In this article I would like to talk about how you might progress that first meeting into something more.
So, you meet someone, either in person or online. You like them enough that you want to hook up with them… but now you don’t know what to do next. You want to ask them to hook up with you, but you don’t know how to do it. You could call them, but you are not sure what you would say. You decide text is better, it gives you time to craft the message before sending it, but you have the same problem. How should you ask someone to hook up with you?
The direct approach
If you are feeling bold, you have met the person before or you know that the direct approach will land well with the target of the hook up request, then going direct is a strong choice. There is no messing about, it is straight to the point and efficient, and it is a great way to get someone in the bedroom fast. If you can pull it off, you come across as super alpha when you do it. Texts can include “Let’s kiss, come over at 8pm” though to “Alert! Alert! Emergency booty call! How quick can you get here?!?” or something equally fun.
If you do not have that relationship with the person yet, a safer option is to give them plausible deniability as to why they are coming over when inviting them. You know you are inviting them over for sex, they know you are inviting them over for sex, but you don’t have to discuss it by text! Invite them over for dinner, lunch, a coffee, to watch a movie or meet your dog or fish if you have any. Any excuse to get them to yours. The kissing can come naturally once you are in the same room in a private place where it can take place, all you need to do is give them excuse. The nice thing about this is if they say no, they are no saying no to your offer of a hook up, but saying no to meeting your cat, so you can try again another time.
Whichever you chose, good luck!