5 things you should never assume about your hook up

Hooking up with someone is one of the best things that you can do with your time and energy. So many things in this world come and go. You make money, you lose money. You form “lasting” friendships with people, time passes and those friendships wane and drift away. In this strange time of the coronavirus pandemic, we can not see face to face or socialise with many of the people that we previously did. This has left a lot of us time to reflect on our past.

A good hookup can be a memory that will stay with us for the rest of our lives. It can be an experience that can form deep-rooted confidence in who we are and what we are capable of doing. The joy that hooking up with some can bring lasts not just in the moment, but can linger for days, months, or even years to come. People underestimate the importance of our sex lives all the time. If we all paid more attention to it, I suspect that we all might be a little happier.

When we do hook up with people, there are often assumptions that we make about the person that we are hooking up with simply because the person is, in that moment, looking for something casual. Here are the 5 things that you should never assume about your hook up.

They have had a lot of different sexual partners

Most people assume that because they are hooking up with you, that they have hooked up with a lot of people in the past. This is not necessarily true! Everyone has a hook up that is their first ever hook up, their hook up with you could well be it! There are also a large number of people, that whilst they are sexual experienced, have had a much lower number of different sexual partners in comparison to the amount of sex that they have had. I would always advise not assuming. If you really want to know, ask… but I would suggest leaving it till much later, it is hard to be seductive if you end up interrogating the person!

They know what they are doing in bed

Again, they may or may not know what they are doing in bed. This could be that they are sexually inexperienced and as they have not hooked up a lot. It could also be because their previous sexual partners have been bad. When in a casual relationship, some people do not make much effort for the other person. This could lead to them being surprisingly naïve about what they do and don’t like! If you do not assume, you will be in a better position to rock their world!

They like a certain type of sex

If someone is having casual sex does not mean they like a certain type of sex. It does not guarantee that they like anal sex, BDSM, or any other type of sexual activity. I would urge you to proceed with care, and as always, just ask! They will be grateful that you care enough about their sexual joy to ask… and that gratitude will be rewarded!

There is a lower bar of consent

I will keep this short. The bar of consent is consistent no matter how and were you meet someone. When you have sex, be sure that they want to have sex with you. Simple.

They are always going to be looking for something casual

This is always an interesting one. They want something casual when you meet. This does not mean that this will always remain the same. I personally know a few people that have progressed from a hook up to a full-blown committed relationship. I am not saying it will happen, I am only saying that you should not assume that this will never change. When it does, you can decide then what you want and how you want to proceed.

So there are my top five things to never assume about your hook up. Go forth and have sex!