Mask use when hooking up

ed — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 23:10:34 +0000

Welcome to hook ups, the website where we help like-minded individuals meet others for some no-nonsense fun. After over two (2) years of living with COVID-19 we are now, as a general society, moving towards a post covid world. Whilst it may never go away, we are now at a stage where many people have had it and heard immunity is at the highest level it has ever been. Here in England and Wales, masks are no longer mandatory so really, we have returned (functionally) to the way of living that we experienced before the coronavirus existed. That being said, it has not gone away and so there are still steps that people can choose to take should they wish to do so. The wearing of masks is one of them. In this article, I would like to talk about how that affects hooking up.

Whether you chose to wear a mask or not makes no difference to your ability to hook up, so if that is a fallacy that you believe set it aside now, it does not serve you in any way. Personal choices like this are exactly that, personal choices. Where the choice of a mask can make a difference is communication, looks and body language.

In the dating world, how you look is a key element. We all want to date someone that we “fancy” and the mask can both help and hinder this, On the initial, it can be a real help! For men, it means you can go out without shaving and you will still look neat and tidy. For women, it can really bring out the eyes and add a mysterious edge to your look. The eyes are, after all, the gateway to the (love) soul! So for first meets, it can be good…. but after a little whilst it can get in the way of communication.

Yes, as humans we communicate with words. However, whilst we listen to the words that we say, we also look at the person's body, listen to their tone and very importantly, we look at their face. Someone can say something really mean, but if they are smiling at the time it can completely change the meaning. When wearing a mask, we are unable to see the smile that goes with the comment, changing the meaning.

So, if you are chatting to someone that you are looking to hook up with, consider putting yourself in an environment where you are comfortable removing your mask for communication reasons. Maybe that means going outside or taking a table in the sun. It can really help you to connect.

Good luck!

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Hooking up with someone without getting the coronavirus

ed — Sat, 24 Oct 2020 20:12:41 +0000

No matter what time of year it is, hooking up with someone is always good! We all want to have sex more during the summer months and less during the winter. We remain tied to the natural rhythm of our biological cycles. Even in the winter though as things cool down, there remains the drive to have sex, albeit that it is lowered. However, our biology has not been geared up to help us cope with the coronavirus lockdown. It is not fixed to the “rhythm” of a pandemic that is likely to last more than a year. So how can we cope with it?

The winter months slow down our desire to hook up

The winter months slow down our desire to hook up. This means that in the coming time it will be a lot easier to have no or less sex than we are used to. This will make the increased difficulty of hooking up easier to cope with as our natural body cycle reduces how much we have the need for sex. The slow down, however, is only that, a reduction. It does not eliminate our naturally born desires.

The drive to hook up with someone remains strong

So, despite the moving time of year, the desire to hook up is going to remain strong. There are even reasons that it might be higher than normal. The increased isolation only makes us crave the connection that having sex naturally brings. This means that we will want to still hook up, and there is no reason that we shouldn’t as long as we are careful.

How to hook up safely without catching the coronavirus

So how can we hook up without catching the coronavirus? The most important thing is to ensure that you are very clear about who you are having contact with and then share that with the other person. The law of reciprocity means that when you share it, they will be inclined to return the same courtesy and will tell you the same… and this is the important bit. You decide based on the risk factor that they bring with them. If they are seeing very few people and are being careful, then that is going to be a much lower risk than if they are travelling on public transport regularly to an office full of people. Regardless of what they say, it is also about what your personal appetite for risk is as weighed against the gain from having sex with the person. Having a fuck buddy at the moment is a particularly good choice as there is a greater level of honesty involved in a no-strings-attached relationship than with a standard relationship, an that again puts you in the position to make an informed decision.

It is always a good time to hook up, and I would encourage you to listen to your personal needs. It is also good to weigh those needs up against the climate of risk that we live in.