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Why you should hook up with someone from a different country

ed — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:32:17 +0000

Hooking up is great. The rise of adult dating overall has been a really positive thing for the entire population. Those that have embraced it and found it is for them are much happier for it. Those that haven’t (or are oblivious to it) still get to be surrounded by people who are happier for having a life where they are hooking up with people on a regular basis. Everyone wins from the situation, there is no downside here.

When hooking up with people, you may be someone that is keen to try different things. A little bit like flavours of ice cream, how do you know that chocolate is your favourite if you have never tried the vanilla flavour? The only way is to try different things so that you have a point of comparison. The same principle can be applied to all areas of your life. How do you know you like the company you work for if you have never worked for a different one? How do you know you like the area you live in if that is the only place that you have ever lived? How do you know that the girl or guy that you are with is the one for you if you have only ever been with that one person? You don’t, so the only way to find out is by trying different things out and, in the case of dating, trying out being with different people.

One way of really changing the flavour is by being with someone who is from a different country. When you are raised in a different country, with a different language and different value system, you have the biggest chance of being fundamentally different. This can bring with it a range of advantages and open up new experience and ways of thinking. I advise you to think about dating someone from a different country primarily for this reason. You may find that hooking up with someone from a different jurisdiction really changes the dynamic. Maybe they are from a country where they are naturally stiffer and more repressed. This gives you the chance to lead in the bedroom and open their eyes to the possibilities therein. Perhaps they are raised in a liberal culture. Sit back and enjoy the ride as they teach you a thing or two!

Regardless of which way it is, there is always fun to be had (and a growth experience) from hooking up with different people with diverse backgrounds. I highly recommend it!

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Top three summer hook ups that everyone should have

ed — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 22:55:19 +0000

With the summer in full force and the UK opening right up with Boris Johnson having lifted restrictions, now is the perfect time to hook up. It has been a dry year for a lot of people when it comes to access to sex. The adult population as a whole are ready to get down and dirty in a way that they haven’t been since the war! People want to hook up, and if you are looking to hook up as well, maybe you could be the friends with benefits that they have been looking for all this time?

Hook ups some in all flavours. Like good ice cream, there are different types, ways, and experiences you can have. There are some classic summer hook ups that I think everyone should have. So here are my top three summer hook ups to aim for, or to add to your bucket list.

The 'its too hot and I don’t have AC'

The summers in the UK have become brutally hot at times. That means with no AC, it is fully on sweaty bodies, with a lot of natural lubrication and soft supple muscles. If you are thinking “it is waaaaaay to hot” then I am telling you now, go have sex and tick that off your list!

The summer skirt quickie

The summer hook up doesn’t get better than the summer skirt quickie. With the weather so warm, the short skirts are out. It is too much effort to take it off… so why bother? Leave the summer skirt on them/you and just have sex anyway! There is something super sexy about doing this, and you can then tick it off the list.

Late night booty call

In the winter, a late night booty call means putting a lot of clothes on to get to the other person, by which time are you still really into it? The summer, with its warm nights, means getting/giving a booty call just needs the other person to come dressed as they are! With no need for a big change, it is a great hook up to have!

BONUS POINTS: pool sex

If you can pull off pool sex, which happens in the films all the time, then you get the bonus points. Pool sex is actually much harder than it sounds. Water should be a great lubricant, but the truth is, it isn’t. It means the sex is really hard to make good, and you are both unlikely to want to do it again and once you have it you will never believe a pool sex scene in a film ever again… but you get the bonus points, so that is something, right?

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Sex games to play with your hook up

ed — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 22:41:54 +0000

Hooking up with someone is one of the most fun things you can do. There are many basic pleasures in life, eating, sleeping, friendship… but love will remain one of the cornerstones of joy in our human lives and everyone should be experiencing more of it. Hooking up with someone is one of the best ways of both giving and receiving that physical love. Adult dating has become a normal and acceptable thing, and ultimately everyone benefits from it. If you have a fuck buddy then you both get to have sex, so it really is the win-win! If you find yourself hooking up with someone more than once, however, you might decide it would be good to mix things up a little with some sex games. This is a fun idea, and to help you out with that, here are my top sex games to play with your hook up.

Sex fortunes

You have probably heard of tarot and reading of peoples futures, well this is a future reading game where you can guarantee the ending… sex for both of you! You get some tarot cards and you assign sex positions to them. Then you “read” each other's futures, then make it happen! If you don’t have tarot you can use ordinary cards, you ca make your own cards, or you can now buy pre-made sex fortune cards which are specially made to play this game. So whilst the future is never certain, in this case, you can be confident of a happy ending!

Strip Tease

This is an oldie but a classic that will never go out of fashion. Stripping games are simple. You both start fully clothed, then you play a game where every time one of you loses a point, or the other person gains a point, you have to take a piece of clothing off. The nice thing about this is that you can play anything, from snap to chess. You can play something long and drawn out that is formal like settlers of catan, or quick and silly like tossing a coin and saying heads or tails. What ever you go with, it is great fun.

Naughty dice

There are a ton of variations of this on the internet, but essentially you roll dice and they tell you to lick + location, or stroke + X etc. They are cheap to buy, easy to use, and a fun and simple way to mix things up.

So, if you have a hook up and want to mix things up, why not try one of these three sex games. Have fun!

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Hooking up with someone without getting the coronavirus

ed — Sat, 24 Oct 2020 20:12:41 +0000

No matter what time of year it is, hooking up with someone is always good! We all want to have sex more during the summer months and less during the winter. We remain tied to the natural rhythm of our biological cycles. Even in the winter though as things cool down, there remains the drive to have sex, albeit that it is lowered. However, our biology has not been geared up to help us cope with the coronavirus lockdown. It is not fixed to the “rhythm” of a pandemic that is likely to last more than a year. So how can we cope with it?

The winter months slow down our desire to hook up

The winter months slow down our desire to hook up. This means that in the coming time it will be a lot easier to have no or less sex than we are used to. This will make the increased difficulty of hooking up easier to cope with as our natural body cycle reduces how much we have the need for sex. The slow down, however, is only that, a reduction. It does not eliminate our naturally born desires.

The drive to hook up with someone remains strong

So, despite the moving time of year, the desire to hook up is going to remain strong. There are even reasons that it might be higher than normal. The increased isolation only makes us crave the connection that having sex naturally brings. This means that we will want to still hook up, and there is no reason that we shouldn’t as long as we are careful.

How to hook up safely without catching the coronavirus

So how can we hook up without catching the coronavirus? The most important thing is to ensure that you are very clear about who you are having contact with and then share that with the other person. The law of reciprocity means that when you share it, they will be inclined to return the same courtesy and will tell you the same… and this is the important bit. You decide based on the risk factor that they bring with them. If they are seeing very few people and are being careful, then that is going to be a much lower risk than if they are travelling on public transport regularly to an office full of people. Regardless of what they say, it is also about what your personal appetite for risk is as weighed against the gain from having sex with the person. Having a fuck buddy at the moment is a particularly good choice as there is a greater level of honesty involved in a no-strings-attached relationship than with a standard relationship, an that again puts you in the position to make an informed decision.

It is always a good time to hook up, and I would encourage you to listen to your personal needs. It is also good to weigh those needs up against the climate of risk that we live in.

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5 things you should never assume about your hook up

ed — Sat, 30 May 2020 14:41:02 +0000

Hooking up with someone is one of the best things that you can do with your time and energy. So many things in this world come and go. You make money, you lose money. You form “lasting” friendships with people, time passes and those friendships wane and drift away. In this strange time of the coronavirus pandemic, we can not see face to face or socialise with many of the people that we previously did. This has left a lot of us time to reflect on our past.

A good hookup can be a memory that will stay with us for the rest of our lives. It can be an experience that can form deep-rooted confidence in who we are and what we are capable of doing. The joy that hooking up with some can bring lasts not just in the moment, but can linger for days, months, or even years to come. People underestimate the importance of our sex lives all the time. If we all paid more attention to it, I suspect that we all might be a little happier.

When we do hook up with people, there are often assumptions that we make about the person that we are hooking up with simply because the person is, in that moment, looking for something casual. Here are the 5 things that you should never assume about your hook up.

They have had a lot of different sexual partners

Most people assume that because they are hooking up with you, that they have hooked up with a lot of people in the past. This is not necessarily true! Everyone has a hook up that is their first ever hook up, their hook up with you could well be it! There are also a large number of people, that whilst they are sexual experienced, have had a much lower number of different sexual partners in comparison to the amount of sex that they have had. I would always advise not assuming. If you really want to know, ask… but I would suggest leaving it till much later, it is hard to be seductive if you end up interrogating the person!

They know what they are doing in bed

Again, they may or may not know what they are doing in bed. This could be that they are sexually inexperienced and as they have not hooked up a lot. It could also be because their previous sexual partners have been bad. When in a casual relationship, some people do not make much effort for the other person. This could lead to them being surprisingly naïve about what they do and don’t like! If you do not assume, you will be in a better position to rock their world!

They like a certain type of sex

If someone is having casual sex does not mean they like a certain type of sex. It does not guarantee that they like anal sex, BDSM, or any other type of sexual activity. I would urge you to proceed with care, and as always, just ask! They will be grateful that you care enough about their sexual joy to ask… and that gratitude will be rewarded!

There is a lower bar of consent

I will keep this short. The bar of consent is consistent no matter how and were you meet someone. When you have sex, be sure that they want to have sex with you. Simple.

They are always going to be looking for something casual

This is always an interesting one. They want something casual when you meet. This does not mean that this will always remain the same. I personally know a few people that have progressed from a hook up to a full-blown committed relationship. I am not saying it will happen, I am only saying that you should not assume that this will never change. When it does, you can decide then what you want and how you want to proceed.

So there are my top five things to never assume about your hook up. Go forth and have sex!

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