Mask use when hooking up

ed — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 23:10:34 +0000

Welcome to hook ups, the website where we help like-minded individuals meet others for some no-nonsense fun. After over two (2) years of living with COVID-19 we are now, as a general society, moving towards a post covid world. Whilst it may never go away, we are now at a stage where many people have had it and heard immunity is at the highest level it has ever been. Here in England and Wales, masks are no longer mandatory so really, we have returned (functionally) to the way of living that we experienced before the coronavirus existed. That being said, it has not gone away and so there are still steps that people can choose to take should they wish to do so. The wearing of masks is one of them. In this article, I would like to talk about how that affects hooking up.

Whether you chose to wear a mask or not makes no difference to your ability to hook up, so if that is a fallacy that you believe set it aside now, it does not serve you in any way. Personal choices like this are exactly that, personal choices. Where the choice of a mask can make a difference is communication, looks and body language.

In the dating world, how you look is a key element. We all want to date someone that we “fancy” and the mask can both help and hinder this, On the initial, it can be a real help! For men, it means you can go out without shaving and you will still look neat and tidy. For women, it can really bring out the eyes and add a mysterious edge to your look. The eyes are, after all, the gateway to the (love) soul! So for first meets, it can be good…. but after a little whilst it can get in the way of communication.

Yes, as humans we communicate with words. However, whilst we listen to the words that we say, we also look at the person's body, listen to their tone and very importantly, we look at their face. Someone can say something really mean, but if they are smiling at the time it can completely change the meaning. When wearing a mask, we are unable to see the smile that goes with the comment, changing the meaning.

So, if you are chatting to someone that you are looking to hook up with, consider putting yourself in an environment where you are comfortable removing your mask for communication reasons. Maybe that means going outside or taking a table in the sun. It can really help you to connect.

Good luck!

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How to hook up with a girl walking down the street

ed — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 14:44:05 +0000

Girls are everywhere we look. They make up half the population so they are impossible to miss! When you are looking to hook up with a girl, there are some obvious places that you can go. The pub is a great one, everyone is out for a good time, alcohol tends to smooth things out and make it easier, and the vibe is good. Clubs have a similar set up, but it is much more direct and physical as it is too loud to talk. You have to be extremely physical and direct in a club and how you look makes a big difference in terms of how successful you are. Generally the first step to hooking up is seeing someone and deciding to take action and see if they are interested at all. Most people know how to do that in a pub or in a club… but what about when you are walking down the street? Can it be done? I am here to tell you it can and guide you as to how to do it.

Stopping her

If you are walking and you see a girl you really like the look of, the hardest thing is to stop her. Do not go up behind her, that will engage her primal survival instincts and make her feel pounced on. Face on is also a little bit too intense. My advice is to take the 45degree angle approach, ideally from her front so she can see you. The perfect way is to be in front, make eye contact, and then stop her as she is passing you. Fluid and slick.

Give her a reason why you have stopped her

You need to tell her why you have stopped her, and I think that being honest is a great way of doing it. Tell her you say her and you thought she was super hot and you needed to talk to her. Or that you loved her outfit/look…. whatever it is that you were attracted to. Be honest and that will be congruent. It also immediately sets a sexual tone, so everyone knows that there is a potential hook up on the table.

Then normalise

It is odd being stopped on the street. Now you have shown her you are a man who takes what he wants, you then have to be super normal so she knows you are not a weirdo. Talk about normal stuff, be flirtatious, try and get to know a little about her.

Go for an instant date… or number if not

If you can get her on a date there and then, that is the ideal thing to do. Take her for a coffee, or a drink, or an ice cream! Anything as long as you do it straight away. If not, no matter how it goes, always ask for the phone number, you lose nothing by doing so.

Good luck! Remember, your next hook up could be the girl to walk past you next!