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5 things you should never assume about your hook up

ed — Sat, 30 May 2020 14:41:02 +0000

Hooking up with someone is one of the best things that you can do with your time and energy. So many things in this world come and go. You make money, you lose money. You form “lasting” friendships with people, time passes and those friendships wane and drift away. In this strange time of the coronavirus pandemic, we can not see face to face or socialise with many of the people that we previously did. This has left a lot of us time to reflect on our past.

A good hookup can be a memory that will stay with us for the rest of our lives. It can be an experience that can form deep-rooted confidence in who we are and what we are capable of doing. The joy that hooking up with some can bring lasts not just in the moment, but can linger for days, months, or even years to come. People underestimate the importance of our sex lives all the time. If we all paid more attention to it, I suspect that we all might be a little happier.

When we do hook up with people, there are often assumptions that we make about the person that we are hooking up with simply because the person is, in that moment, looking for something casual. Here are the 5 things that you should never assume about your hook up.

They have had a lot of different sexual partners

Most people assume that because they are hooking up with you, that they have hooked up with a lot of people in the past. This is not necessarily true! Everyone has a hook up that is their first ever hook up, their hook up with you could well be it! There are also a large number of people, that whilst they are sexual experienced, have had a much lower number of different sexual partners in comparison to the amount of sex that they have had. I would always advise not assuming. If you really want to know, ask… but I would suggest leaving it till much later, it is hard to be seductive if you end up interrogating the person!

They know what they are doing in bed

Again, they may or may not know what they are doing in bed. This could be that they are sexually inexperienced and as they have not hooked up a lot. It could also be because their previous sexual partners have been bad. When in a casual relationship, some people do not make much effort for the other person. This could lead to them being surprisingly naïve about what they do and don’t like! If you do not assume, you will be in a better position to rock their world!

They like a certain type of sex

If someone is having casual sex does not mean they like a certain type of sex. It does not guarantee that they like anal sex, BDSM, or any other type of sexual activity. I would urge you to proceed with care, and as always, just ask! They will be grateful that you care enough about their sexual joy to ask… and that gratitude will be rewarded!

There is a lower bar of consent

I will keep this short. The bar of consent is consistent no matter how and were you meet someone. When you have sex, be sure that they want to have sex with you. Simple.

They are always going to be looking for something casual

This is always an interesting one. They want something casual when you meet. This does not mean that this will always remain the same. I personally know a few people that have progressed from a hook up to a full-blown committed relationship. I am not saying it will happen, I am only saying that you should not assume that this will never change. When it does, you can decide then what you want and how you want to proceed.

So there are my top five things to never assume about your hook up. Go forth and have sex!

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Want more sex? Ditch the smart phone to hook up more

ed — Wed, 26 Feb 2020 20:37:47 +0000

We all want to be having more sex. Some of us are single, and really, they are looking to hook up to have more sex, which feels a scarce resource. Others have a long-term partner, but they still want more sex! Perhaps the relationship is going through a down patch, or they have just fallen out of the habit of having sex. For those few remaining virgins in the world, they have never had sex and are looking to experience it for the first time. To those people I say: what a treat you have in store! With so many people looking to have more sex, it seemed helpful to write an article outlining how you might have more sex.

There is so much advice on the internet on how to have more sex. People sell books, recordings, they make podcasts and write advice columns. For all the advice out there, I have one top tip to having more sex, which is much needed in the modern world. Ditch the smart phone.

Apps on smart phones are designed to be addictive. Facebook is a perfect example of a social media site that has spent huge effort and millions in order to make people want to use it as much as possible. The invention of the “like” button was designed to hook people on the validation that is received. That seeking of validation can drive us to become hooked to our phones, which form the portals to these social media websites. In today's world, there are more than ever. Snapchat, Instagram, Tumblr, Twitter… the list goes on. You could spend every waking hour on them and never run out of new material.

Your phone transports you into the world of the social media site. Your attention and mind become focused on that, which means it takes you away from where you are in the real world. This can damage your sex life in a number of ways.

You miss opportunities to hook up

When you are in your phone, you are not looking around at the people that you are with. This can lead to you missing important hook up opportunities. You are no longer starting a conversation with the hot girl sitting next to you on the train because you are checking Facebook. Ditch the phone and go for the hook up instead!

It is a turn off when you are with someone

When you are with a potential hook up, wither because they are a regular fuck buddy or because you are chatting them up, pausing to pull out your phone and ignoring them can be a real turn off. It sends all the wrong messages and can turn a sure thing into a sure failure of a night.

With a regular hook up

If you have a regular hook up and you check your phone before bed every night, that means you are not chatting to your partner in bed. This means you are less likely to turn each other on and you are going to have less sex. Turn off the phone when going to bed or put it on flight mode at least, and you may find your regular hook up will love the extra resulting sex as much as you do!

So turn off your phone to have more sex. Simple.

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Hook up using some surprising sex facts that will blow your mind!

ed — Sat, 08 Dec 2018 17:53:38 +0000

When you are hooking up with someone, you are looking for a way to turn the conversation to a sex in a smooth but fun way. By talking about sex, or around sex, it brings sex to the forefront of both your minds and thus makes the person start thinking about having sex with you. The question is how do you bring it up? You don’t ever want to ask the person that you are hooking up with “hey do you want to have sex?” This is too crass, too in your face. You want to talk around it. To help with this, I have put together some surprising sex facts that will blow your mind. You can drop these into the conversation as something you read recently. This will bring out an emotional reaction in the person that you in the process of a hook up with, and it will also turn the conversation to a sexual nature, thus setting the hook up better. So here are some surprising sex facts!

Sperm ratio

Did you know that there are 300,000,000 sperm in a tablespoon of cum? That is three hundred million sperm! Bear in mind it only takes one in order to get someone pregnant, which is why condoms are a really good idea!

Vibrators

Did you know that vibrators were invented as a cure for something that women suffered from called “hysteria.” I think that the women got the better end of the deal here.

What people do straight after sex

It used to be that after hooking up with someone, you cuddled for a while. In the black and white movies, you would smoke a cigarette. Well just as smoking has been replaced by mobile phone use, the post hook up cuddle has been superseded by social media. 36% of under 35’s now roll over and check their social media accounts on their phone. Watch out for Facebook live everyone!

Girls get laid more

The average woman has sex seventeen percent more than the average man. Sorry boys!

Women’s orgasms beat men’s hands down

It seems that the average female orgasm lasts for 20 seconds, which is a good 14 seconds longer than the average male orgasm which lasts a mere 6 seconds. This should come as no surprise to anyone though. Whilst men have fun, I have never heard a man say that they shook uncontrollably and screamed with joy when orgasming. Women clearly have more fun than men!

So there are some fun facts that you can drop in when talking to someone that you may hook up with. Have fun!

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