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Hook up, because the best relationships start with sex

ed — Thu, 09 May 2019 16:06:21 +0000

All relationships start somewhere. The initial meeting predominantly begins online these days, though they can also start in a bar, at a party, a random hook up, or even walking down the street where you bump into someone. They usually then progress to something else… and if you fancy the person this can often be a number of dates, dinners, outings and other courting activities in order to form a connection and relationship. Many relationships do start casually in this way… but I am here to argue that the best relationships start with sex at a very early point. Keep reading and I will tell you why starting with a hookup is the best way to start a relationship.

Long term relationships are all about compromise. The only way to make them last is for both parties to give a little, because no two people agree about everything all of the time. It simply does not happen that way. You compromise on Holidays, or where you go to have dinner, or when you have two events clash which one you go to. All of these compromises are acceptable in a way, because you can always make up for them. If you did not go on the holiday of choice with your partner, that is okay, maybe you can make up for it and go with your mates instead. If you didn’t go to the place for dinner this time, you go another time. If you could not attend your good friends birthday you can always make it up to them by taking them somewhere else for an evening. You can not do this with sex.

My big argument why early sex is important, is there is no option of making it up elsewhere. Let us say you began in a slower to sex way. You did 5-6 dinner dates called, texted, and by the time you had sex you were emotionally committed to the other person. You have sex… and it is a giant fail. It is just not that great. They are not into the same thing in the bedroom as you. Now it is too late. You have to ask yourself, are you really willing to give up this kind, lovely person with whom you have spent loads of time and energy? Or are you going to compromise on the sex? Many people compromise on the sex… and then you are screwed. If you are in a monogamous relationship, you can not make it up elsewhere. You can nor just go and sleep with your mates or throw money at it. You are now stuck with someone with whom the sex sucks. The longer you are together the harder it would be to leave.

Nip this issue in the bud! If you sleep with someone by hooking up with them early, then you can find out if you are sexually compatible. If you are not, you say goodbye with no hard feelings and move on before the hypnosis of love kicks in. Having a sequence of fuck buddies is a great way to get to a girlfriend!

So start with a hook up, for your own sake.

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Hooking up is easier as it gets colder

ed — Wed, 17 Oct 2018 10:08:20 +0000

The summer is now officially over. Autumn equinox, the moment where the night and the day are the same length of time, has passed. From here onwards, the days are now only getting shorter and the nights longer. The reduction in sunlight means the land has less time to warm up, which leads to an overall drop in temperature. In short, its cold, and it is getting colder with each passing day!

Why we think the cold makes a hook up harder

There is a generally a belief that as it gets colder, it becomes harder to hook up or find a fuck buddy. There are good reasons to believe this. The summer brings with it a reduction in the amount of clothing that people wear, which in turn helps to increase the overall horniness and sex drive of the country. We are built, by nature, to have sex in the summer so that we are giving birth 9 months later in the spring. The extra heat brings with easier logistics to having sex as well. People stay out later and go out more, giving greater numbers when trying to hook up. It also means that you can have sex outside more easily as the cold does not kill the sexual desire that you feel.
With the cold in place and growing, all of this is now over. Numbers will thin a little on a night out after work, the days are shorter and people go home more quickly, you can no longer have sex outside on a whim easily… it is not impossible but it takes a much greater level of commitment, horniness or alcohol! I want to be clear, sex is not off the table, the perceived barrier to entry is just higher now, and the in-person opportunities are now lower.

How you can hack this to hook up more easily

All of the above is based in truth, but it lacks one crucial piece of data, that people always want to have sex! There is never a bad time to get laid, you just have to change your approach. Now is the time to move to online dating to hook up with someone. The cold makes it easier! You have longer nights with which to cuddle up in bed together, people feel the natural downturn and depression that the winter brings in, the best cure for this being sex. People really want the reassurance of a warm body pressed in against theirs. People are going out less which means the competition is actually thinner at this time of year, so it is easier to meet someone who wants a no strings attached encounter or meet up. The other thing is with new year coming in, people start to evaluate their lives, and if they are single this can be a hard place to be. Hooking up gets easier as the self imposed pressure to not be alone at the end of the year kicks in.

Hooking up is easier as it gets colder though you do have to do more online than offline. So put yourself out there and you will find someone fun!

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Hook up now, for there is no bad time to hook up

ed — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 12:12:01 +0000

There is no bad time to hook up. There are easier times to hook up than others for sure, when you are in a club most people are there in order to hook up for a one night stand or a fuck buddy type of relationship, that is the nature of the place. This means that it is easier to find a hook up sheerly because there are more people there looking for the same thing as you. That being said, there is no bad time to do it. Finding a hook up at work is harder than in a club because people are there for a very different purpose. They are there to make money, not to have sex. That being said, everyone wants to have sex, at all times. I am not saying that they want to get laid to the same degree, but the desire still remains there. When someone doesn’t want to have sex, what they actually mean is that their desire level is at such a low level that they really don’t feel like it, despite what they are saying the actual desire has not been extinguished. Everyone wants to have sex, it is hardcoded into us, we cannot remove ourselves from this.

This is why having a friends with benefits on hand for an easy hook up is such a positive thing. When you want to have sex, you know that you have the opportunity to do so with as little effort as possible. It is a little like keeping a pizza in the freezer, when you get hungry, you know you can eat something that you really like! It is a smart thing to do.

When an opportunity to hook up presents itself, there is often a little voice inside your head that will give you all the reasons why now is not a good time, why you should not grasp the opportunity to have sex. It tells you that you have misread the signs, that they don’t really want to sleep with you, that you are supposed to be doing something else, that it is not important, that you don’t want to have sex with this person… it will come up with countless excuses that are all driven by fear.

Remember, there is no bad time to hook up. If you meet someone that wants to sleep with you, grasp that opportunity with both hands. You will be doing both of

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Hooking up is an end in itself

ed — Fri, 15 Jun 2018 08:25:18 +0000

We are brought up largely being told that hooking up is a bad thing. This comes from all sorts of places. We have certain religions telling us that sex outside of marriage is wrong, and that one should wait until they have found their “one” before having sex. We have the status of being a “virgin” as one that is raised up as having a special status, and one that once lost can never be regained. We have slut-shaming as an attitude, where a girl will be put down for sleeping around even if she really hasn’t slept with that many people. Society is geared up to tell you that you should not be hooking up with people just for fun, that you need a better stronger reason that the desire for sex if you want to hookup with someone. I am here to tell you otherwise.

You do not need any reason to hook up with someone, other than the desire to hook up with someone in the first place. Meeting someone and having sex is an end in itself. As a society, we are becoming more and more goal and output focused. If I do X then will I get Y? Less and less do we do things simply to be able to enjoy doing them for their own sake. Yet what is life, of not the journey itself? If we are just focused on the end, we should go ahead and kill ourselves now, because the “end” of it all is death! Why not fast-forward?

When we watch a film, we don’t watch the ending only for that would defeat the enjoyment of the film. We want to experience the whole film, to be taken on the journey that the story provides. We enjoy and experience the journey, the destination (the ended) is only a small part of it. Music is another great example. Orchestras do not play symphonies as fast possible rushing to the end, they play them in a paced manner so we can enjoy them. So too should be our lives, and our sex lives in particular. Having a hook up for no other reason than to hook up should be the only reason needed. There should be no further justification required, and we should not have other sources telling us in any way that this is wrong.

So if you want to hookup, do it. If you want to, then for you it is the right thing to do.

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